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    Monday, June 22, 2009

    Where Have You Been?

    Out living life of course!! Adjusting to single life seems to be suiting me, although being alone took a bit to get used to.

    Mr. Sign remains amicable and generous. As a matter of fact, he and I are often seen together which confuses people immensely. It's hard to tell old friends we encounter that we are in fact getting divorced but still friends. Apparently, this is quite uncommon. The most beautiful part is that we get to go to separate homes at the end of the day.

    The divorce is moving slowly, at my discretion. We decided that neither of us is in a great hurry to be officially divorced. This benefits me in that I get to keep health insurance benefits until all is said and done.

    We are sharing custody of the girls who seem to be adjusting well as far as I can tell.

    I started dating a great guy almost 6 months ago. He decided to have weight loss surgery, not because of me, but because he wanted to change his life. When he came to me, I told him he needed to do his own research and make that decision on his own. So, last week he became a member of the weight loss surgery group.

    Our relationship seemed to get serious despite my warnings. I was afraid I was going to break his heart so I took things one day at a time. We both fell head over heals for each other and honestly, I never dreamed I would let my feelings get so intense. Over the months, things started to feel like we were married. We decided because we live an hour apart, that we should slow things down. Neither of us wants to be married again, but would rather like to enjoy each other's company. We are now happily dating and remain hopeful that two people can be a little more than "great friends".

    Another new love has crept into my life as well. I am now bicycling 125 miles a week. I went out to get in my car to walk one day and saw the bike sitting there. I thought, "What the heck?" and threw it in the car only to ride 21 miles on my first trip. Our city has an amazing river trail that is one of the most beautiful in the U.S. I don't have to worry about getting hit on the road by a car.

    The end of the River Trail.

    My weight is still fluctuating about 5 pounds up and down. I decided to accept my accomplishements and continue being as active as possible. My new life is a work in progress but I wouldn't change a minute of my past. It's made me who I am today.

    (I'm working here, lol. I'm reading Sign Builder's Illustrated).


    MomsJournal said...

    Hooray for having a new guy in your life!

    I love bicycle riding. I just ordered a bike trailer so I can haul the toddler around with mine. ;-)

    snowelf said...

    Hey Jenn!

    What a fabulous turn of events--it seems like everything is working out in the best way possible after a tough situation. You can't hope for more than that--I am so happy for you. And congrats on your new love--both of them. ;)


    ell said...

    i'm so glad you're doing well. i really miss your regular updates and am always checking in to see how you're doing. it seems like you're really adjusting well and a new love in your life to boot! hurray for you!!!


    Mona said...

    Great news! All of it! I am so glad for you!

    lime said...

    you sound like you are doing really well and i am glad to hear it. you've been missed.

    G-Man said...

    Excuse me Jenn...

    May I borrow your bicycle seat for the week-end?


    See what you've missed?

    Big Pissy said...

    I've missed you!

    So so SO glad you're doing well. :)

    Reading this post made me happy.


    Sheri said...

    Whoot! I've so missed you too and will return your calls. Thank you for your post. Congrats on your new love!

    Michele in Michigan said...

    You sound WONDERFUL! I'm glad that you've found your inner strength and that you have such perseverance! I can't imagine biking that much (around here, anyway).

    I have a recumbent bike that I am just ITCHING to get out on, but I still have a bit of a balance problem with the little handlebars. Oh, and I look a little "special" on it, according to my kids. Little shits.

    TAWNYA said...

    I'm so glad you posted. I've been checking in on you from time to time only to see the same post from April 22. I'm glad to see you're doing well and being gentle with yourself (about 5 lbs) and living your life.


    barman said...

    It is hard to be happy with a divorce but still I am very happy for you Jenn. Things seem to have went very well. That is wonderful to hear because you are a super person.

    Have fun with your affairs. Best wishes with both.

    gab said...

    Good for you!

    Jon said...

    Hey Jenn,

    I was in Mich a few weeks ago. Thought about calling you, but talked myself out of it. I was only there for a few days, and my mom had a few things for me to do. One of these times we need to get a drink.

    Way to go on the bike riding. I need to do more of that too.

    Because you and Mr. Sign are being nice to each other through all of this, it will make it so much easier on your kids. I think yours is even nicer than mine was, and my kids made it through just fine. Now they just get pissed when they try to play me and their mom against each other and they find out she and I had already discussed it. I think my oldest wishes we didn't get along. hehehe